FIFA’S Video Assistant Referee also known as VAR is a technology that was introduced recently in the game of football to increase the efficiency of football officiating to the highest possible level.
Like in the game of football, I have decided to approach every allegation going to VAR to critically look if there is a foul play anywhere.
Rape is evil, I have interacted with rape victims and many of them hardly come out of the trauma and other effects of it.
We must protect the girl child, we must uphold the integrity of womanhood. I hold these values in high esteem.
Women are gaining their voice, they are rising to the challenge. Victims of rape are coming out to speak, which is healthy for the protection and preservation of the girl child.
My fear for the possible outcome of this current rage against “rape” that is being fuelled by emotions and sensation is that this golden voice against rape can become manipulative and a tool of blackmail.
A guy may break a lady’s heart, the next thing is that the lady would shout “rape”.
Your opponents can pick someone to accuse you of rape.
We are beginning to set a precedence where anybody can wake up and shout rape against a husband, brother, uncle, nephew, friend, in-law etc on social media and we pass judgement on social media without critical and logical assessment of the allegations because we run with emotions on issues like this than we do with our brains.
This is where I had issue with the case of Ochanya of blessed memory. In journalism you don’t comment on issues in court, in such a way to preempt the outcome of the judgement.
Baby Ochanya of blessed memory was interviewed, the other party was not interviewed. The case was in court already and professionally speaking she shouldn’t had spoken to media… if there was need for her to do, she should have done it through her attorneys. None of these were done and you wanted me to join the bandwagon to hang Mr Andrew Ogbuja. Where is professionalism in that report, I stand to be corrected by learned minds reading this.
I tried raising this side of the narrative, but I was clamped down by sensation and emotions.
The current siege at COZA is a “voice against rape” which I have nothing against, but the possible metamorphosis of this rage is what is giving me sleepless nights.
Any lady can wake up and say anything and we pass judgement without looking back.
We are now mistaking “soliciting for sex” as rape. We are now converting consensual adult affairs into “rape”. It is taking a dangerous dimension.
A tool of vendetta is now in the hands of those who want to deal with men who jilted them. Men who once “fired” and ran way. Men who dumped them after “knack”.
To all the ladies in this category, who have names of “men who once tried sleeping” with them, have it in mind that men gist about sex with themselves. While you have names of those “who once tried sleeping with you”, MEN HAVE NAMES OF THOSE WHO ACTUALLY SLEPT WITH YOU.
Social media fire doesn’t stop where you lit the fire, it burns more than your imagination.
While you are planning to unleash names of those “who tried sleeping with you”, also attached “those who actually did”.
I am saying this to help someone. As you are warming up for social media wars, you better know the possible backlash of your actions.
Those men have sympathisers, relatives and loved ones too… and may dig you out too. As you go about with names, also tell us how your account number got into their phones, how they were once house rent, data, shoes, school fees, ATM, birthdays gifts, perfume, air tickets etc. No come give us half truth. If you give us half truth, VAR go bring the full truth out!
I am only trying to help some of my sisters.
Happy New Week!
Enenche Enenche Abuja, Nigeria 🇳🇬
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